Dating a biexual yahoo
Having no clear guidelines, you let these areas, and perhaps these doubts, go unexplored. You made small incremental decisions that maintained the relationship and the family.
It may be that at the first you wondered if this was the way it was supposed to be. For a while it's going to be one day at a time, slogging through, some days better than others.
After a week of hell, and many a shouting match, he begged me to take him back, claiming that his experimentation is not worth losing his family.
As in a textbook scenario, he, somehow, convinced himself that I, being very liberal and supportive of gay community, would understand, and maybe even approve, his urges.
I have consulted the divorce lawyer as well, but decided that I simply cannot afford to leave him before I can secure some sort of support system, income, job, anything that would assure my landing on solid ground.
Now, being middle-aged and with thin résumé, getting a job will be difficult in this economy, and I am more and more inclined to pursue separation, since staying in the marriage is not really emotionally healthy for me.
The bisexual activist Robyn Ochs defines bisexuality as "the potential to be attracted—romantically and/or sexually—to people of more than one sex and/or gender, not necessarily at the same time, not necessarily in the same way, and not necessarily to the same degree." ..development of a lesbian, gay, or bisexual (LGB) sexual identity is a complex and often difficult process.
My self-esteem is still pretty high, but self-pity creeps in every now and then, hurting my ability to think straight.
I want out; the question is do I wait until the girls are off to college (another couple of years), or do I seek an exit now. You fell in love and got married and had two beautiful children and had always thought there might be unexplored territory between you and your husband. You may have learned a way of relating that, though intimate, allowed for certain unexplored regions.
I see a woman who now knows you never really know, who learns that when disaster happens you're capable of more than you realized.
And maybe there will be some new rules in this story -- rules about hunches and doubts, a rule that says if something doesn't feel right, it isn't. The American Psychological Association states that "sexual orientation falls along a continuum.In other words, someone does not have to be exclusively homosexual or heterosexual, but can feel varying degrees of both.I do realize that his orientation is not a choice, but his behavior is.